Common Sense Topic: Why?

I wrote this back in May when I first started doing these videos. I kept this for a moment like this. I will be doing another video later this week on cable vs satellite services. In the meantime, here we go…

Why do people follow the paths they follow? Is it because they are passionate about their path? Or are they following a path paved by their predecessors in their family? Are they afraid to pave their own path? Hats off to those whom travel a path unpaved.

Why are some so shallow that they cannot see beyond themselves? Do they choose to be so self-centered?  Did they grow up in a family that encouraged the “ME” syndrome? Did they not have someone come into their life and make a positive mark?

Why are some so insensitive that they do not stop and think about what they are saying? Do they not have a filter between their brain and their mouth?  How can you ask a domestic violence survivor about the abuser’s health status or anything to do with the abuser’s wellbeing?  Do people have so little common sense that they actually expect the survivor to remain a residence where the violence happened? My guess is those who second guess and belittle domestic violence survivors can never understand we lived through. I am writing this because I am a domestic violence survivor. I understand the residual fear and terror of walking in a house that we once called home. Now it is a reminder of the hell I lived. No, I was not sent to the emergency room on multiple occasions. That does not mean the abuse did not happened nor does it mean that the abuse was traumatic. It does not mean that hearing our daughter plea for us to make up was not hard to hear. I continued to hear that moment repeatedly throughout the two years I was forced to remain in the house of hell. I continued to relive the moment when he put a knife to my throat and let me know he would kill me.

Why do domestic violence survivors become irritable and angry? Because we get sick of insensitive assholes that ask, “Have you heard from the abuser?” We do not want to hear from the abuser ever again. So do not ask us if “we’ve heard abuser” when they know what an injunction is in place for. Now you learn what an injunction is for.

Stop expecting us to live in terror. Stop expecting us to live in a structure with walls where the violence happened. Stop trying to make us feel guilty because their lives suck. Had they not because abusive, they would still have their family..  The video for this will be available at https://youtu.be/eAwplEG_zX4.