What is a homemaker? What is a home? Last week I jumped the value of homemaker. We examined the task and its 'monetary value'. The homemaker makes the home a warm and inviting place for the family to come home to. After a long day at work, most people (I understand that sometimes the man is the homemaker) like to come home to the smell of dinner, see a clean house, and a smiling face. This is what a home is. That place you come to at the end of a day and you don't have to worry about the outside world. The home is warm, inviting, and that safe place you can be you. No personas or mask needed.
Your home should reflect who you are at your core. What do you like? What are your favorite things or activities? Your home should reflect that. Just know that as you get older, your taste will change so don't feel like you have to spend hundreds of dollars on decor. Plus when you add a mate into the mix you are going to add their personality to the decor so they feel like this is their home too. Then you have the children. Your house goes from an intimate nest to a romper room. It's important to keep the master bedroom a 'sanctuary' for the two of you.
Tips for new homemakers;
Be honest with yourself about your life experience and where being a homemaker fits in. Asses if you can handle being at home all the time or if looking at the same rooms and doing the same task over every day is for you. If you're okay with it, great. Go for it! If you'd rather put your head through a window than look at the same rooms and do the same task, perhaps full-time homemaking isn't for you. If you go against your nature, you will regret it.
Establish routines now. The older we get the more set in our ways we become. No joke! Once you and your mate have decided if there will be a full-time homemaker or part-time the two of you can then set up routines to be done daily, weekly, and monthly. Each will be different. Also, decide if you want to homestead with a full farm garden or if you're going to be urbanites.
Post children. What will be the routine after you start adding children to the house? Do you live where child care is affordable? Congrats! Most people like my cousin found it was cheaper for her to stay home with their one (now two) child. I want to encourage you to have a parent or grandparent home when children come home from school.
Next is a public school or home school. Over the past year, more parents have been pushed into the role of teacher. I say this as someone who has put a child through the public school system, home school your children. They are going to be better off. I am including this because it will have to be figured into the routine schedule. The good news is if you decide to homeschool, you don't have to keep to a regular schedule. It's totally flexible. Do two lessons after breakfast, then chores, and spread it out. Homeschooling does offer a great deal of flexibility.
Once these questions are answered, you are ready to start homemaking.
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